Since we are gearing up for a whole bunch of people running around pretending to be someone they aren’t…it sparked a post idea in my brain.
People pretending to be someone they aren’t. I figured on Halloween this topic would be appropriate.
Look, I’m so guilty of this.
I’ve pretending to be someone I’m not for a really long time. Mostly to please those around me. It’s not a constant pretending. It’s just hiding certain things to please this person and that person. Something you all have probably noticed about me from some of my posts is that I am a MAJOR people pleaser. If someone isn’t happy with me than it eats me up from the inside out. It isn’t a completely healthy way to be. At all.
I was too scared to show my mistakes and show my flaws. I’ve always been the type to cover my story up. Twist it, change it and even lie about it to make myself look better. When in reality lying and covering up the truth is anything but looking good. I have no idea why I was always so concerned about looking perfect.
When you make a mistake…don’t cover it up. Don’t hide it. Don’t sweep it under the rug and goodness, don’t pretend it didn’t happen. I can’t stress enough that we are all human. We all make mistakes. I can guarantee that the mistake you just made…someone else has made it too.
Feeling alone is one of the worst feelings on the earth in my opinion…and when we mess up we feel like we are alone in our mess ups. Like we are the only person on planet earth to make this one mistake. I can promise you that you are not alone. The more you open up and are honest to people about your mistakes…the more you find out just how NOT alone you really are.
I was the PRO at covering up my mistakes or just putting them in the past and forgetting about them all together.
I was basically trying to be perfect for everyone around me. I was way too concerned about what those around me would think about me if they knew things I’d done in the past.
I’ve been through a lot in the short years of my life. There is no doubt about that. More than anyone would ever want to go through or experience. But! Just because someone might not agree or like what I’ve done…and I may even lose people along the road…but owning my story is something I’m slowly but surely learning how to do. Because, it is okay to share with others your mistakes…maybe they can learn from them and take away something that will help them to not make the mistakes you made. Sharing your true self could help someone. Try it.
I’m taking off the mask and stepping into the spotlight. I’m welcoming myself for who I am. I’m not going to be ashamed of who I am or what I’ve done. My past mistakes will not define who I am as a person.
And about losing people along the way…you are always going to lose people. If you hide yourself or not. You will always lose people along your path through life. It’s simply how it is. So, you should always be yourself.
Because as the saying goes, those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
As children are ringing your doorbell tonight dressed as something they aren’t. Let that be a reminder to always be yourself. Except on Halloween. On Halloween always be something you aren’t.
Thanks for reading,